When do you feel completely and utterly heard?
What is it that people gift you in the movement?
How can you ask for that?
Who can you reach out to?
But also practice yourself and gift to others.
Over the years I’ve had ample opportunity and amazing friends on similar journeys to practice active listening and the power of mindful inquiry or open ended questions.
We are conditioned to listen to respond, instead of listen to understand. The power of an intentional question to open up the conversation is prices less in my eyes. When someone uses, “what I heard you say, did I get that right, is there more?” When someone just listens and let’s me share without interruption. When someone is asking questions to deeper understand me, it makes me feel so important. That my perspective and words mean something. That they can sense and share and hold space for others and not just their agenda or story or needs is something I as a empathetic, enneagram 2 and Pisces holds so sacred and dear. As it’s something natural to me, but so foreign to others. That it can feel rare that I am being reciprocated with on a daily basis. I think that’s why over the years I’ve come to value circles and facilitating. As I can help facilitate conversations where hopefully folks leave feeling heard. And have tools to be heard and to also hear our and inquire more about others. I deeply want to understand and know and hear what you and your unique experiences and perspectives are. The power of story and multiple perspectives and awareness can never be replaced.
Where can you lean in more? Is it that silence is uncomfortable? Or that you just need some practice?